While you may not be permanently bound to your choices, they do often suggest a pattern of behavior or decision-making which are indicators of your thought process and tendencies into your character. You can argue about being unfairly pigeon-holed but you're not. Especially when you regularly make similar decisions. People without your tendencies do not make your choices. People of character keep their commitments first, and then their desires. They don't allow one to overwhelm the other. There are those who make the opposite choice and have the kind of life that it works out for them anyway. Usually because someone else has kept THEIR commitment. But having something work out despite your choices is not the same thing as having something work out because of your choices. Yet enabled by the result, some don't change the decisions that got them there. The constancy of these choices and decisions are indicators of where your head is and show the tendencies of behavior of where you're going.